Do people take you seriously? Or do they dismiss you because you are young, old, fat, thin, white, black, short, tall, smart, sarcastic, blond, funny, pretty, plain, or any 100 other things?
People do not take me seriously. It’s been a running trend throughout my life. I have no problems in making myself heard, but I struggle with getting people to listen, believe, and respond to what I am saying.
Example: Tuesday, when I went to the doctor for the second time in two weeks for the sinus infection from hell, all I got was “your scans look fine, here’s a steroid shot”. He didn’t ask me about my symptoms, barely looked at me, and when I asked about potential side affects with my other medicines and could we talk a little about my anxiety/depression issues, he basically blew me off. I left the office feeling like he was not taking my illness nor my raging mood swings seriously. He dismissed me because I appeared fine.
Example: I am constantly called a secretary at work by new library patrons. They want to know where the librarian is, they need to talk with her. When I say I am the librarian, they look at me in confusion. Some have even asked how old I am. My age makes people question me.
Doctors don’t take me seriously. Library patrons, administration and physicians alike, don’t take me seriously. Sometimes my parents don’t take me seriously. I feel like my friends don’t always either.
I am a naturally serious person, which is why all of this is confusing for me. Other than being young, I don’t fit the classic (and totally stereotypical) image of someone who doesn’t get taken seriously. I am not short, I don’t look younger than I am, I am not blond or ditzy, I dress professionally 90% of the time, I try to portray myself as the smart, slightly sassy person that I am. Unless I’m being purposely funny or relaxing, I take myself and my work very seriously.
But for some reason no one else does. I am constantly overlooked, dismissed, ignored, or laughed at. I am truly offended by people, from strangers in Starbucks to my family, not taking me seriously.
Do people take you seriously? Does it bother you when they don’t?