There are a lot of times when being single sucks. When your aunt asks about your love life at a family gathering. When you see on facebook that that girl from high school is pregnant – with her second baby. When you are forced to go to yet another wedding alone. When you play third wheel with your married friends on a regular basis.
Then there are a lot of times when being single doesn’t suck at all, when in fact it’s excellent. Like when you can take a trip to see your best friend at a moments notice. Or when there is only one scoop of ice cream left in the container. When you can watch American’s Next Top Model marathons for 8 straight hours in your rattiest pair of pajama pants and unbrushed hair. When you can eat cheese and crackers and drink wine for dinner for 5 days without complaint.
But then there are times when being single sucks so bad it’s literally painful. When you slowly watch all of your closest friends fall in love and begin completely different lives. When you wake in the middle of the night and the bed is ice cold. When you have to see bad movies by yourself. When you watch another birthday, another milestone come and go without someone to share it with. When you come home, day after day, to an empty house and the only thing ahead of you is a lonely dinner and a night in front of the tv with your cat.
That’s when being single really sucks. When no phone calls to moms or cheerful “you’ll find someone soon!” comments or pans of brownies can erase the loneliness, the sadness of an empty house and a life without someone to share it.